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…the dirt doesn’t care…

15 Jul

For the first time in years, we’ve got some good dirt at our place! We had it delivered…I forget how much, but I know it was several yards more than we really needed. I discovered we’d ordered too much when I set out trying to carry and spread the rich top soil to the top of the hill…where we’d ridiculously decided to plant our garden. Anyway, we’ve got good dirt.

It’s good dirt, but to be honest, it’s rather apathetic. You see, the dirt just doesn’t care.

If I plant zucchini or squash seeds, the dirt will grow zucchini or squash. The dirt really doesn’t care. If I plant poison sumac seeds, the dirt will grow poison sumac. The dirt is like that…it really doesn’t care what seeds I plant.

The land will return whatever is planted, watered and nurtured. If I sow zucchini, I reap zucchini. If I sow sumac, I reap sumac. (This is starting to sound almost Biblical!)

My mind is somewhat like the dirt, and please don’t carry this analogy too far. My mind is somewhat like the dirt, in that it too tends to produce whatever is planted and nurtured. In fact, my mind (and yours) is more incredibly fertile than any available topsoil.

But like the apathetic dirt, our minds don’t care what gets planted. If we plant sadness, fear and anger; then sadness, fear and anger will grow. If we plant joy and forgiveness, joy and forgiveness will grow.

I’m starting to learn how to control my emotions. When the darker, more poisonous moods start to surface…I realize my need to immediately plant some better seeds. I’m trying to remember that “the dirt doesn’t care.”

 
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…the actor or the director…

10 Jul

Maybe you’ve known this all along…but I’m just now catching on. We’d be a lot more successful in our relationships and our careers if we’d simply decide to be the actor…rather than the director.

Although it might at first appear easier to direct our children with such statements as, “Pick up your room!” We’d be much more successful (and instructional) to say, “Hey, let’s be a team and pick up your room.” Working together, we can model for the child the best approach to cleaning the room. Working together, the child senses that he/she is part of a team.

Although it might at first appear easier to direct our spouse with such statements as, “You need to clear the table and wash the dishes”…we’d be much more successful to say, “Let’s clear the table and wash these dishes so we can relax for the rest of the evening.” Working together promotes conversation and camaraderie.

Being the actor instead of the director encourages me to make necessary changes in my own behavior, and discourages me from attempting to control others.

Being the actor instead of the director promotes what some might call “servant leadership.”

 
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